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About Marci Stevens

Marci is a wife, mother, speaker and blogger. She is also a co-founder of a powerful non-profit, award-winning marriage ministry, Marriage Pressure Points. Marci writes about her own struggles as a wife in hopes that God will continue to offer her grace and use her testimony to help others.

She ALWAYS does that! 4 Things You Should Do to Diffuse Lies About Your Spouse

Guess what? Somebody hates it when there is harmony & peace in your marriage. He can’t stand it. You know who I’m talking about. He wears all red and wields little goat horns on his head. He’ll do anything to cause conflict or confusion in your marriage. One of his favorite, but subtle attacks is to make false agreements with us about our marriage. Tell me if you’ve ever heard these in your head before:

  • He left his clothes on the floor AGAIN, like… I’m the maid.aa-angel-and-devil-on-mans-shoulder
  • She knows I hate meatloaf, but she keeps making it to spite me.
  • Why can’t he just put a new toilet paper roll on the spool? It takes 10 seconds.
  • She cut me off in mid sentence again! She never let’s me talk.
  • He or she will never change. They just don’t care anymore.
  • They don’t deserve my love or attention right now. Not after what they’ve done.
  • She ALWAYS does that!
  • He NEVER listens to me!
  • It’s hopeless.

Lies! All lies. None of it is God’s voice. The devil is sneaky, he likes to get us in a corner and whisper these little lies in our ear. We tend to agree with him because it selfishly validates our frustration with our spouse. What started as little whispers eventually grow into toxic resentment and anger towards our spouse. So… what do you do? Continue reading

About Phil Stevens

Christ follower, happily married, proud father, producer, actor & social media strategist. I love to create things that glorify God. Love God. Love People.

Is it all in my Head? I still don't trust her. (Part Two)

It had been two years since Kim had planted the first mine. (Part 1)Woman thinking

My husband set up boundaries so that he would not be in any situation where she could talk to him about sex or any other personal topics. She seemed to respect the fact that I was his wife and tried to get to know me and our kids. During those two years, I discovered she was a woman who was hurting. Her father was emotionally absent during her younger years and she sought out relationships with men to try to fill the hole that he had left.

Time to move on.

My husband’s time in the military came to an end and we decided to sell our home and move. Our last few months became a whirlwind of activity as we tried to navigate our transition to civilian life. We had to coordinate a state-to-state move, sale of our home, purchase of our new home and starting our oldest in kindergarten.

All of that meant that I had to travel ahead of my husband to get our kids settled while he finished tying up all the ends of our military life.  Separation was not new to us. We were used to it and had a system. Communication was always VERY important part of being apart. It was better to over-communicate than under communicate.

During his last few days, his colleagues gave him a farewell party that Kim did not attend.

What I didn’t know was that she offered to take him out to lunch as a rain check. She wanted to say goodbye and thanks for being a great friend. On his way to meeting her, he gave me a quick call to update me on the house closing that was happening the next day. During the conversation he mentioned that he was on his way to meet Kim for lunch. Continue reading

Hurry Up, Will You?

**Disclaimer: When I write “friend”, ” friends”  or “another couple” I may or may not be referring to myself  or my myself and my husband.**

There is this couple that my husband and I enjoy spending time with (wink wink). My friend confides in me that often times there is an issue that is so pressing for her, heavy on her heart, that she really wants & needs to discuss it with her spouse immediately.woman-thinking 3 So… (my friend) figures everything out for him and lays it on him! Wow! What a great wife!  She has thought about it, considered all aspects and as she shares with her spouse. Heck, she even has the perfect solution. Genius. So kind of her.

Well, so unexpected to my friend, after sharing with her spouse this “topic” that needed to be discussed – well her spouse was not at the same excitement level that she was on the topic.  She was at about a level 10 (10 being the highest level) and she shared her topic with passion.  However, as her husband listened to the information given he was just at about a level… well maybe a 2. Ok maybe a 3.

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About Marci Stevens

Marci is a wife, mother, speaker and blogger. She is also a co-founder of a powerful non-profit, award-winning marriage ministry, Marriage Pressure Points. Marci writes about her own struggles as a wife in hopes that God will continue to offer her grace and use her testimony to help others.

Just A Status Update Please

“Hi honey. Just a status update please….”blah blah faded

“Um… No.”

Fellas. We were wired to be logical, rational, quick-thinking creatures. We lead with our head, and not with our heart. However, our wives lead with their heart and emotions. In truth, it’s the perfect combination, hence why God created marriage.

Here’s the scenario, we meet up with our wives after a long day and want a quick ‘status update’ before unwinding, unraveling and relaxing. What you would like to hear is…

Her: “Jimmy was late for school, grounded all weekend. The Smith’s are moving to Idaho next week; new job. Taylor had her baby. Boy. Fat. Dinner is Lasagna and I paid the bills.”

You: “Ah… perfect.”

No, no, no. Here’s the kicker! She doesn’t want to JUST give you a status update. She wants to have a meaningful conversation with you. Wait… what? A whole conversation? But I just got home.

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About Phil Stevens

Christ follower, happily married, proud father, producer, actor & social media strategist. I love to create things that glorify God. Love God. Love People.

I trust him. Not her.

From the 2009 Sony movie 'Obsessed'

Her name was Kim*.

She was tall, thin, and just 22. She was a brand new lieutenant fresh out of nursing school and into the Army’s on-the-job training. When I met her I was five months pregnant with our second child. This young woman would be following my husband, also a nurse, around for six very long weeks as she trained as a floor nurse at the military hospital. It wasn’t my husband’s choice to train her. When the Army tells you to do something, you do it.

I trust my husband.

We have always been very honest with each other from the start. I knew he was studying to be a nurse when I met him. I also knew a male nurse is rare and the likelihood of having to work with mostly women is a given. Through his college years he proved that he was trustworthy by being completely open and honest with what would happen in class or in study groups.

You see, my husband is a very nice man. He is a very good listener and he genuinely cares for other people canadianviagras.net. Those qualities not only make a good nurse, but a VERY attractive catch for many women. People instantly like him which can be a great quality, but a bit scary for an introverted wife like me.

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