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Hello? A Little Help Please!: Unmet Expectations Can Poison Your Mood

roadtriphellIt was going to be a busy day.  My family had lots of places to go, things to do and places to be: all back- to- back.  We had 2 parties to get to (to which I had no gift for either), we had to grab lunch on the go and travel with a 3 year old and a 13 year old. So you can imagine that with potty breaks, teen boredom, complaints and whining, things can get pretty hairy!

Our first destination: gift for first party.

I tell my husband that I’m heading to the gift aisle.  He stays with kids.  We will meet in the front of the store.  I only have to get 1 item.  I hastily get what I need, check out and am waiting in the front of store.  Where are they?  What is taking them so long?  Seriously!?  Frustration building.  I actually have time to fill out the card (really fill it out), I have time to bag AND tissue the present. Where is he?  What are they doing?  Finally, I just call him.  Come on!! Lets go!  We don’t have all day! FYI – they were shopping, havin’ a ball! Continue reading

About Marci Stevens

Marci is a wife, mother, speaker and blogger. She is also a co-founder of a powerful non-profit, award-winning marriage ministry, Marriage Pressure Points. Marci writes about her own struggles as a wife in hopes that God will continue to offer her grace and use her testimony to help others.

She ALWAYS does that! 4 Things You Should Do to Diffuse Lies About Your Spouse

Guess what? Somebody hates it when there is harmony & peace in your marriage. He can’t stand it. You know who I’m talking about. He wears all red and wields little goat horns on his head. He’ll do anything to cause conflict or confusion in your marriage. One of his favorite, but subtle attacks is to make false agreements with us about our marriage. Tell me if you’ve ever heard these in your head before:

  • He left his clothes on the floor AGAIN, like… I’m the maid.aa-angel-and-devil-on-mans-shoulder
  • She knows I hate meatloaf, but she keeps making it to spite me.
  • Why can’t he just put a new toilet paper roll on the spool? It takes 10 seconds.
  • She cut me off in mid sentence again! She never let’s me talk.
  • He or she will never change. They just don’t care anymore.
  • They don’t deserve my love or attention right now. Not after what they’ve done.
  • She ALWAYS does that!
  • He NEVER listens to me!
  • It’s hopeless.

Lies! All lies. None of it is God’s voice. The devil is sneaky, he likes to get us in a corner and whisper these little lies in our ear. We tend to agree with him because it selfishly validates our frustration with our spouse. What started as little whispers eventually grow into toxic resentment and anger towards our spouse. So… what do you do? Continue reading

About Phil Stevens

Christ follower, happily married, proud father, producer, actor & social media strategist. I love to create things that glorify God. Love God. Love People.

Hurry Up, Will You?


**Disclaimer: When I write “friend”, ” friends”  or “another couple” I may or may not be referring to myself  or my myself and my husband.**

There is this couple that my husband and I enjoy spending time with (wink wink). My friend confides in me that often times there is an issue that is so pressing for her, heavy on her heart, that she really wants & needs to discuss it with her spouse immediately.woman-thinking 3 So… (my friend) figures everything out for him and lays it on him! Wow! What a great wife!  She has thought about it, considered all aspects and as she shares with her spouse. Heck, she even has the perfect solution. Genius. So kind of her.

Well, so unexpected to my friend, after sharing with her spouse this “topic” that needed to be discussed – well her spouse was not at the same excitement level that she was on the topic.  She was at about a level 10 (10 being the highest level) and she shared her topic with passion.  However, as her husband listened to the information given he was just at about a level… well maybe a 2. Ok maybe a 3.

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About Marci Stevens

Marci is a wife, mother, speaker and blogger. She is also a co-founder of a powerful non-profit, award-winning marriage ministry, Marriage Pressure Points. Marci writes about her own struggles as a wife in hopes that God will continue to offer her grace and use her testimony to help others.